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Decondition the Family Energy Field

written by Maggie Sale Ostara, PhD | December 23, 2021

The Family Energy Field.

It has a force all its own. Created many years ago, it still influences your and everyone else, despite how everyone has grown and evolved. The patterning inside a family can be very, very strong, and difficult to resist. So if you’ve been feeling it, you’re certainly not alone.

Back when my main focus was facilitating Clarity Breathwork, every year around this time I held a breathwork circle focused on healing, deconditioning, and updating the family energy field. These were potent sessions because no one can trigger you like your family of origin!

As one therapist said to me many years ago: “You know those buttons you have? Your family installed them!”

This old patterning can undermine the desire and best intentions of even grown adults to connect with each other. Unless we update our habitual responses we’ll automatically engage with one another, see one another, assume things about one another, that are no longer true, if they ever were. Kids default to being rebellious or silent, parents revert to being controlling, older siblings find themselves dominating younger siblings and so on.

I created today’s video to help you track when the family energy field gets activated and you and/or others begin to react inside of it. Then I offer some new conscious choices and ways of being that will help you to decondition your own responses and interact with others in new ways.



The way your family learned to interact was influenced by each person’s Human Design and how they interacted. Now I know, for example, that as someone with an open Emotional Solar Plexus, and two parents with defined ESP, often times the emotions I felt and expressed as a kid weren’t even mine!

Of course I didn’t know that at the time. I just knew I was made wrong for having intense emotions that I often didn’t even understand.

You can deepen your inquiry by running the charts of the members of your family and seeing how the openness and definition in different member’s charts interact. If you want to really understand this, I recommend you get a reading from a certified professional who can help you as there’s an art to this. In the meantime, you can gain some insight simply by looking at how the open and defined centers interact, for example.

In Human Design, the family energy field is explained in part by what’s called a “Penta”, which is what’s created when three or more people interact. This often happens in families, and it takes relationship reading to another level. I invite you to contact me if you’d like to have a Penta reading of your family (or your company!).

I wish you the happiest of holidays, and encourage you to meet the opportunity to grow yourself and decondition your family energy field if it arises. Just one person being and acting differently can change the whole scenario.

Will it be you?

Maggie Sale Ostara, PhD left her prestigious job as the Director of Women’s a Gender Studies at Columbia University when she realized she’s not built to work for anyone else. Since then, Dr. Ostara has become a Certified Human Design Specialist (Level 4), a Certified Clarity Breathwork Practitioner, a highly sought after teacher-mentor, who teaches high-achieving women how to develop their personal sovereignty, to activate their super powers, and to unleash themselves from society’s prescription of success.

She’s the creator of the Soul Signature Self Awareness Project, the Wheel of Power of the Visionary Entrepreneur, and over 20 educational programs focused building soul-inspired businesses that positively impact the world and taking command of your life through personal sovereignty. She’s hosted 5 multi-speaker online conferences, and spoken on over 15 such conferences reaching audiences of over 200,000 participants.

With two decades of experience supporting 20,000+ students and hundreds of clients through her online programs and conferences, Dr. Ostara teaches how to avoid overwhelm and burnout, how to make reliable decisions, how to create a bigger impact with less effort, and how to transform inner liabilities into powerful assets and allies.